Q: Catherine from Ohio
Dear Emily,
I can only orgasm if my mind is completely engaged in some kind of elaborate fantasy situation. I have to imagine an over-the-top kind of sexy situation, even if I am totally into the guy I am with. I feel bad because one: I'm not entirely present in the moment and two: if he knew my mind was elsewhere he would probably feel bad too! Is this a common problem? Do you have any ideas of how to orgasm without mental stimulation?
Thank you!
A: Dear Catherine,
Well here's the good news: People who have more sexual fantasies are more likely to be sexually satisfied, and even have more sex. So I feel like I should give you a medal. And you thought there was a problem? The truth is: fantasy is healthy. It's a common myth that only unsatisfied people engage in fantasy but the opposite is true: people with a healthy fantasy life, research shows, are more sexually satisfied than their non-fantasizing counterparts. Just because you fantasize doesn't mean you're unhappy...
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Q: Todd from Maine
Dear Emily,
I am 40 yrs. old and have been with my wife 20 yrs. I have been on blood pressure medication for about 10 yrs. and have never had any erection issues until recently. I can get an erection fine but keeping one for a session of sex can be difficult. Do penis rings really work? Please help!
A: Dear Todd,
First, I'd go to your doctor for a check up. This is always the first place to start to make sure that nothing else is going on with you. As far as 'rings' for men. They've been reported to work with great success. The rings fit around your penis, usually at the base, primarily to slow the flow of blood from the erect penile tissue, thus maintaining erection for a much longer period of time. You can buy many different types of rings these days, some models include a (
vibrating clitoral stimulator)...
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